Hi Justine,

This is the second email that I have written you in reference to my twisted dilemma.  I have been dating a young lady for about six to eight months now and I am absolutely crazy about her.  To me she has almost every quality that I am looking for in a mate.  In addition the sex is ridiculously off the hook.  She has repeatedly expressed to me that she want’s to be with me exclusively, but the problem that I have with this is that I am already in a relationship (married).  I know it makes no sense why I would even write to you for your advice but the reason that I have is because I am crazy about this woman and truly don’t know what to do.  The other part of this story real life is that she is twenty nine years of age, successful and extremely independent.  I am forty seven years of age, somewhat successful and would have no problem being independent.  The reason that I have not just up and made a hasty decision to leave my wife like a lot of stories that I have heard over the years is because I love my wife, and have history with wife, and I don’t want to hurt her by leaving for another woman.  In addition, my marriage isn’t exciting anymore although we love each other very much, but love is the only thing that’s keeping us together. I know that if we decide to part ways I think that my wife would be embarrassed and very afraid to be alone.  Actually she has expressed this to me many times.  For me I would be afraid that I am making the biggest mistake of my life, but I don’t think that I would be afraid to be alone.  Justine the reason that I need your advice on this one is that I am ready to do this but I know that I need to hear an unbiased opinion of this situation from some one that I truly respect before I do something really stupid.  Please let me hear from you. 

Before I close on this letter I must inform you that the young lady that I have been dating has decided to see other people because I have not made a decision to be with her exclusively.  The thought of this breaks my heart.  Could she truly be the soul mate that I have been waiting for all these years? Or am I being as stupid as this letter sound?

Sincerely, 

Stupid Heartbroken and Confused 

Dear Stupid, Heartbroken and Confused,

Because I care about you and you want me to be honest …You are all three things!

This twenty nine year old girl is hot, sensual and makes you feel like you can leap tall buildings with a single bound.  Well, you ain’t superman !  It’s  the quest ,it is the hunt and it is the things you are lacking in your marriage (sexual).

Don’t be foolish and throw away a marriage that is still built on love.  You said YOU STILL LOVE YOUR WIFE!!

Many have thought the grass was greener on the other side only to found out that is astro turf .

Ask yourself would this (29 year old) who  says she  loves  you, would she  take care of you if you had a terrible accident and you couldn’t perform sexually.  Would she go the distance with you if you lost everything thru a divorce?

Now, on the other hand if your marriage is that bad and you want out… BE A MAN and tell your wife.  Don’t live a lie.. Don’t hurt her anymore or yourself!  Trust me , your wife knows about the 29 year old girl and she is probably laying for you to do something stupid .

Brother, think about your choices !!!  Is it Love or is it Lust!!

Always, Justine

Remember if no one told you they love you today..I do