Dear Justine-

I have a boyfriend of almost 3 years now, we are in love and we get along very well the only thing is that I have 2 kids of a previous marriage, I some times feel that I would never marry because of my kids. We have talked about it and I have told him about the way I feel and he tells me that he loves me and that my kids are not an issue to him. What I think makes me feel this way is that he doesn’t have any kids of his own and by me having 2 scares him about getting engaged, I feel like breaking it of sometimes but I do love him, I just don’t want to get hurt. Please give some advice Justine.

Thank you

Dear Scared,

Sometime we block our blessings and we should take folks at their word instead of reading things into it.

You stated that the relationship is three years old so I assume that the kids have been with you along. If this man loves you he loves your kids because they are a part of you .

I think you are so afraid of getting hurt again and nobody wants a failed marriage especially a second one.

Until you can honestly trust your feelings and trust in the relationship the two of you have built that old baggage will haunt you.

Before you can have a new healthy and nurturing relationship you MUST BRING CLOSURE to the old one.

Take your time and keep talking to him about what your concerns are. The best relationships are built on truth, honesty and great communications.

Always remember that if no one told you they love you today I do!!!

Always, Justine