I have been in communication with this "man" for five (5) years. What attracts me to him is the fact that he's never been married and has no children. We’ve been talking on the phone, I’ve been to his home and he has visited mine but we just can't seem to get past that.

His conversation is sex Justine, mostly sex! He says we can't get off the ground because I won't see things his way, which is starting out having sex. At this point in my life is not my first priority. I want to wait until I get married. I'm divorced and my only child has passed so I want a committed relationship which I have expressed to him time & time again. He is aware of that. I can reach him any time of the day or night, when I call he comes running I guess my question is after all this time could this only be about sex? We do have a bond he often tells me he loves me which I find hard to believe because we hold so much inside. We talk about 3-4 times a week about sex and other things. He stays in contact with me and is the aggressor in this friendship. He has been hurt in the past and so have I and we have expressed to one another how hard that was to get over. How do I get the ball rolling or should I just move on??

Thanks Confused!!!

Dear Confused

Wow, what an interesting scenario. Stand true to your conviction and wait if that

I don’t really understand the five years of telephone dating. I can understand the fears of being hurt in the past, but both of you need to get over it. If the conversations are always about sex, why are you entertaining them?